How to grow small men respectful to women

The average age at which one dna becomes a mother for the first time, for several socio-cultural reasons is always increasing. These are women who choose motherhood without being subjected to it, women who know what they want and who are informed by also learning, reading here and there, little basic notions of psychopedagogy.

One of the main concerns of modern mothers is to raise children of different sex by teaching them that they both have the same rights and the same duties. They try to annihilate the macho culture that has prevailed for a few decades. This is not done by growing small women able to fight to assert themselves, but by educating small men to respect women.

Women, having lived decades in a society directed towards the “masculinist” values ​​typical of patriarchy and which is now (fortunately) evolving, have understood that the secret is precisely that of forming the new mindsexactly the same regardless of gender. A research on the subject, which also gave rise to an interesting book on men raised according to feminist principles (Mothers (feminists) and sons (males) – XL Editions, 2013), was led by Patrizia Romito, professor of Social Psychology at the University of Trieste, and Caterina Grego of Telefono Rosa, authors of the aforementioned book. Children of pro-feminist parents have been compared with those of families with closed patriarchal imprint and the young men interviewed for the research all declare that the feminist imprint given to their education has enriched them by helping them very often in comparison with the fair sex.

So that children learn the lack of difference in rolesthe behavior of the father figure is very important for men and women; if the father, for example, does not really respect the mother, is authoritarian, does not share domestic tasks, risks to introject an unconscious machismo of which it will then be difficult to get rid of adults. For this reason it is very important to pass the teachings through practical examples rather than words: the housework must be shared in the couple and, in a manner appropriate to their age, also with the children. Never treat male children as little kings, rather involve them in all activities by supporting explanations that include the activities carried out together in what is (or should be) the normal routine of a family.

Unfortunately, in some cases, it is not enough just a family education to respect women so that their son does not become a man who uses and abuses the privileges that the patriarchy assigns him, sexist or even violent. The biggest stumbling block is the deafening media and social message that pushes children and boys to identify with a dominant male model up to the use of violence. A message that is difficult to contrast today but not impossible if it finds a solid foundation for tomorrow’s gentlemen.

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